Tough love on American women

Tough love on American women

I want to ask American women two things, do you want to live in a desert wasteland? Do you want men to ignore your cries for help? If the answer to both questions is no, then you need to clean up your act because that could happen if you keep giving men a reason to go overseas looking for suitable women to marry. I already explained why you need men more than we need you, so I'm not going to repeat myself if you disagree, you're an idiot. I'm going to address the things that American women need to work on. Before I do that, I want to address the one thing men need to work on. 

Men need to have a better attitude about other guys hitting on their wives or girlfriends. I understand why this bothers you; however, that's what you signed up for. I mean, you can't get with a woman that most men find desirable, brag about it, and get mad when we reinforce that by shooting our shot. We tell women this all the time when it comes to wealthy men. If I was a married man, I would let guys shoot their shot as long as they are not fresh about it. If my wife encouraged men to act like that, I would be more upset with her because she's not respecting me as her husband. Now that I've got that problem out of the way, let's get into the other 99. 

One of the things Western women need to work on is compartmentalization. Here's an example, 

If I met either of these women before their husbands and their pleasant to be around, I would pursue them.  

Yes! They may not be considered a 10, but I will treat them like they are. That's another thing, there's a difference between physical and sexual attraction. Just because you are physically attractive doesn't mean you can do anything for me sexually, but I digress. If you meet a guy who makes good money, he treats you right, but his quirky or doesn't whisper sweet nothings in your ear, keep that to yourself. By keep that to yourself, I mean don't tell your girlfriends either. 

That's another thing; giving women the freedom to choose who they want to be involved with was a mistake. You can call me a sexist pig all you want; the proof is in the pudding. Having certain freedom should be reserved for people who are responsible. Single mothers don't take responsibility for the domino effect they created in society. Don't believe me, then find me one episode of one of these female-led talk shows where women admit that they are single mothers, have failed marriages, lost their jobs, or became rape victims because of something they did. What's the point of having these shows if women are not going to call each other out or hold each other feet to the fire? When we had arranged marriages, we didn't have as many single mothers as we do now. Why is that? 

American women suck at picking suitable men. Watch Pop the Balloon if you don't believe me. Sidenote, you look insensitive for blowing off men who are bold or can't rock that look. One-fourth of the male population start losing their hair when they turn eighteen. I'm tired of seeing women turning down men who could be good for them for pity reasons. The type of men they want don't make up 5% of the male population, and women outnumber us. So getting the man of your dreams is a pipe dream. ( No pun intended.)  

I don't know about you, but I'm insulted whenever I hear women talk about protection because they don't protect us. They are not protecting us from false rape accusations by not talking about it. I'm surprised that's not the reason why men are leaving the U.S. Who in their right mind wants to live in a State or Country we false accusations are acceptable? If that's not true, then what are we doing about it? Don't get me started on Paternity fraud and taking all of the man's money in a Divorce. This is why it's hard for me to feel sorry for rape victims, because I see this as karma. 

They are not protecting us by having us commit proxy violence; we are not your personal attack dogs. I'm not going to fight a guy because he offended you, especially if you brought that on yourself. For example, if you call a man a bxxxh and he beats you up for it, don't come crying to me. Unless he gives you a shiner or gropes you for no reason, then I'll step in. What about children? They need to be protected more than women. Women are not protecting them by getting arrested right in front of them. Thinking you can raise kids without a father is also hurting them. That's one of the two things women need to work on if they want to be mothers. The other thing is cooking. How do you expect your kids to eat if you don't cook? Y'all should be embarrassed that y'all can't beat Chef Ramsey in a cook-off, because when we think of cooking, we think of our moms. ( That should be Chef Ramsey's next reality show, Chef Ramsey vs the Everyday Woman, but I digress.) 

The next complaint mostly appeals to Black women, that is, being argumentative. Really, they should be embarrassed that they have this problem. Don't parents pop you upside the head for saying something out of line? There are bodycam videos of you getting arrested or manhandled because you won't keep your mouth shut. There are court-cam videos of your case being thrown out or you going to jail because you can't keep your mouth shut. Black women's mouths are so big and foul that they would make a man who doesn't hit women want to break your face. There is a scene in Deadpool and Wolverine that they need to watch because we shouldn't have to go off on you like that or jam a gun to your face to get you to stop talking. ( I hope this is not genetic.) If I own a business, that's one of the two reasons why I wouldn't hire a Black woman. I'll get into the second reason later. 

Women having an issue with being submissive is disingenuous for two reasons. First of all, men are not above being submissive. Second, you have no problem submitting to your parents, your boss, your landlord, the laws, etc. Men want feminine women; being submissive comes with being feminine. I hear women say they are feminine to certain men. Being feminine is not conditional, either you are or you're not. Saying that hurts your chances of getting married. How can you convince any man you are wife material if you can't be feminine? 

There is a scene in Sonic 3 between Shadow and the girl that made me want to cry. That's because it's sad that women can't be this friendly or friendly at all. (Well, that depends on which city you live in.) When inmates are friendlier than you, something is off. Something is also wrong if you need alcohol to be chummy with people. If you want productive men in the community, you have to make them feel wanted. To do that, you have to give them your time, attention, affection, and gifts. By gifts, it doesn't have to be a PS5; however, if you expect him to buy you jewelry, that shouldn't be a problem for you. By affection, hugs and kisses are not going to cut it. We can get that from our mothers if she's still around. 

Look, I'm not saying you have to throw yourself at every guy, but something gotta give. Here are some examples; if your car breaks down and a random guy comes and fixes it, is buying him a latte reasonable? If you had a rough day and someone made you laugh to the point where you started crying, would you show your gratitude by giving him or her a hug? If the answer to both questions is yes, then that's my point. You have to practice positive reinforcement, that's hard to do if you're not going to indulge them. 

Here's an example of what I'm talking about 

I'm sorry, but this makes me sick. You wouldn't be caught dead with an educated lame as your prom date, but you have no problem with this. What the fudge!?! Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the sentiment; however, you don't want to bruise the egos of the men you want. This also makes Black women and girls look bad. I mean, I don't see a lot of videos of them doing this, and I doubt their mothers would encourage this. Also, what's the most romantic thing you've done for your man? If you can't think of anything, you need to work on that, too. 

When it comes to sex, you have to maintain your virginity or not hook up with a lot of men. Men who are on top of the food chain don't buy or want used things; that's how they see you if you've been with more than one guy. They don't want to deal with your ex bragging about how he had you in your prime; that's not a good feeling. Plus, it's not a good look to marry a woman who has a reputation for getting around. Really, you shouldn't be intimate with someone you don't see a future with because you will put yourself in a position to deal with the wrong person for eighteen years. 

Women need to stop using sex to manipulate us. Let me put it like this; should a woman be afraid of her boyfriend or husband abusing her? If the answer is no, then that's my point. Men shouldn't be afraid of their wives or girlfriends withholding sex from them. Another reason why women shouldn't do this is because of post-nut clarity. If you wonder why men flirt or hook up with women that they normally wouldn't, that's what post-nut clarity is. Having that itch you can't scratch is like a bullet to the brain. You don't think clearly when you do get it scratched; you realize the mistake you made. 

If you are the type of woman who does that, don't be surprised if he cheats on you. You know what, that shouldn't be considered cheating. If you let your husband leave the house hungry and itching, you are failing as a wife. You should at least take care of that when he gets home. Women need to stop with the excuses to avoid having sex, like I don't know you or I don't want to be labeled as easy. First of all, you do know the guys who approach you, you wouldn't be picky if that wasn't the case. Second, if you have a type, you are easy. I mean, you are more likely to be friendly to a guy you're attracted to than a guy you're not into. If you don't want to be labeled as easy, then why do most of you have the same love life as Jenny from Forest Gump? 

Also, saying men are not entitled to sex is another excuse. To the women who think it's dehumanizing that men just want to have sex with you without getting to know you, that is disingenuous. How do you think men feel when you view them as your personal piggy banks instead of a person? Plus, you brought that on yourself by not seeing things from a man's point of view or not talking about things other than gossip.  

You should also be visually appealing to the men in your community. You're delusional if you think men want to live in a community where women are obese and have tattoos or body piercings. This leads to the second reason why I wouldn't hire Black women. Whenever I see them with wigs, make-up, and fake eyelashes or nails, I'm not going to take them seriously because they are not being authentic about how they look. If you can lie to me about your appearance, then what else are you lying about? There is a saying that the eyes are the window to the soul; the same principle should apply here. 

I understand Black women's hair is a touchy subject for them; however, that's your problem. I mean, everyone is not going to be sensitive about your hair problems, and you shouldn't expect it. I'm not saying you should never wear wigs; however, if you're caught up with how they look on you instead of rocking your natural hair, that's a problem. I don't know what makes women think men care about how much money they make, but we don't. We wouldn't be working if that were the case. Plus, it doesn't substitute for what we want from you.   

Will you please stop giving advice to both men and women because you're not good at it. If you are a single mother and your thirty-year-old son is still a virgin, you're failing your son. Do you want your son to end up like Elliot Rogers? If the answer is no, then stop telling him to be a gentleman because it's not working. Why should men take anything you say seriously when you gaslight us or keep baiting and switching? I'm not saying there aren't things men need to work on; however, most of the problems you have with them are on you. There was a TikTok video of a woman who got divorced because she didn't want to do her part to help build a house. That could have been avoided if she hadn't listened to the women online. You know what, if she's not telling you to embrace your femininity, learn how to cook, respect is primary to a man, and love is secondary, or look good in a bathing suit, don't listen to her.  

Speaking of advice, you need to internalize what men are telling you instead of thinking they are being sexist or bashing you. It's embarrassing that you don't know the difference between bashing and tough love. The most important thing they need to work on is to not make men feel isolated or lonely. If you laugh at a guy for crying instead of comforting him, or a man can't tell his wife that he lost his job, then that's my point. You made it clear that you want a man with money, as soon as he is unable to provide, you think about leaving him. So much for better or for worse. 

The bottom line is that American women need to humble up and think about the people behind them. Do you want your son growing up thinking getting ripped off is OK? If the answer is no, then you'd better be ready and willing to cook for men, be their shoulder to cry on, and indulge in whatever freak stuff guys are into. I'm not saying men won't do anything for you without any sexual favors; however, that has its limits if you don't respect or desire them. What's the point of men bearing the responsibility of building and maintaining society if women are not willing to do their part? American women are their own worst enemies until they realize that nothing will change.