The good, the bad and the ugly of Hypergamy

The good, the bad and the ugly of Hypergamy 

Forgive me if I'm all over the place with this topic; I have to be to make my point about this subject. 

For those of you who don't know what Hypergamy is, it's women marrying or dating the top men. Basically, if you heard of the 80/20 rule, that's what this is. Despite my complaints about this, I don't have a problem with women wanting the best man; no one else should either, because it will make you look like a hypocrite. For example, when you were in school, you picked kids to be on your baseball team; are you going to tell me that you're not going to pick the best players? If you're running a business, you want to hire the best people to do the job right? Hypergamy has its benefits; it can give us the push to do better and maintain standards.

One of the many issues I have with it is that not every woman is going to get the man of her dreams. Let's look at women's standards. They want a man that's over six feet tall, has a seven-figure income, a six-pack (That's a fair request if she's willing to stay in shape), and have the magic stick. I'm going to break down why these requirements are unreasonable. The average height for men is 5'9, the percentage of men who are between 6'0-6'2 is over 14%. There are 3.9% of men who are over 6'2. 20% of men make six figures a year, now imagine the percentage of men who are making seven figures. 

The average Joe makes between 42 to 50 grand a year. If that's not enough money for you, then I don't know what to tell you. Also, making six or seven figures is not rewarding because you don't get to keep all of it. As far as having a magic stick goes, you need to have a nine-inch pee-pee and know how to satisfy women in bed. First of all, the average pee-pee size is six inches. Second, you need to develop a good rapport with him in the bedroom if you want the other part. If you're not willing to put in the work, you're going to be disappointed.

To the women who want a man who have these things, how often do you meet a man like that? If the answer is not very often, then what does that say about your standards? I'm not trying to shame women for having expectations; I'm trying to get them in touch with reality. I'm surprised that women who are out of shape want the top men. What made them think that they can get that kind of man? (Well, they have a chance if they're pleasant to be around; however, the odds are still stacked against you.) Do you see what I mean when I said women treat us like illegal immigrants? They expect us to not only look good but make a truckload of money and were suppose to accept them looking a mess. Am I the only one who finds this insulting? What can women give us that they didn't give to another man? If you are not a virgin or had more than three sex partners, you have no right to ask for the top men. 

This is one of the many reasons why I don't take feminism seriously because hypergamy works against feminism. For example, if you make 125 grand a year, who are you going to attract? Also, if you're 6'4, how do you expect to find a man taller than you? If there is a way for men to get taller, I wouldn't recommend that they take it because of the health problems that come with being as tall as an NBA player. Basically, feminism is undermining men's ability to live up to their expectations. 

Another gripe I have with hypergamy is that it has no limits, because of that, women don't know how to settle for one person. No woman can look me in the eyes and tell me that they wouldn't consider leaving their boyfriend or Husband for someone taller and has more money. ( Unless she's a traditionalist.) Heck, I bet they'll flirt with him. This is one of the two ways Hypergamy can hurt boys and men. If women can't be happy with one person, then what's the point of men trying to woo women if they can't be satisfied? Would you be outraged with your boss for firing you for someone more qualified to do your job, even though you have been doing a good job for years?

Another way hypergamy can hurt men is in the society we live in. We don't live in a society that encourages men to develop their survival instincts; you need that if you want to be the protector of the family. If you don't know how to survive in the wilderness, then that's what I'm talking about. We shouldn't put so much stock in making money to the point where it defines us; money has no value in certain places, like a prison. Also, hypergamy can make it hard for men of different age groups to work together because we are playing in each other's sandboxes. As far as older men getting with younger women and young men hooking up with older women. Being the top candidate has its downsides, like it can put a target on your back. Let's look at the WWE, for example. 

They have a PPV event called the Royal Rumble, in this event, the wrestlers have to throw each other over the top rope until one man is left in the ring. The Big Show is the biggest and tallest wrestler the WWE have. Whenever he enters the ring, the other wrestlers gang up on him. I laugh at him whenever he gets upset when that happens to him because he's bigger than all of them; they're not going to treat you like everyone else, and he shouldn't expect that. Another example is bucks. Female bucks are attracted to the male buck with the biggest horns. The downside to that is that it makes them more likely to die from arthritis. Do you see what I mean? 

Hypergamy is hurting women as well because their standards are keeping them from finding a man. American women are not doing the best job at practicing hypergamy. I mean, if they really want the top 20% of men, why can't they stay married to them? Also, if they want a man who can protect and provide for them, why didn't they move to Japan? Asian men are some of the smartest people on the planet, and they know martial arts. I'm not saying that to stereotype them, I'm saying that because it's a part of their culture. How can women expect men to be considerate about what they want when they don't consider what we want? For example, if you don't care that men have to work 12 or 14 hours a week to start their own business, why should I care that you have to starve yourself to get in shape and keep that figure?

Women wanting the top man can have its downfalls. For example, let's say you're on an Island, there are ten women and ten men on this Island. The ten women get knocked up by two out of the ten men, but they don't want to do anything for them or their kids. So, they go to the other eight men, and they don't want to help you either because you gave them the cold shoulder. Do you see what I mean? You can't have it both ways; you can't say most men are beneath you and expect them to get you out of a jam. This is why men with deep pockets should be picky about who they date, not because every woman wants your money, it's because you weren't there for him before he built his wealth. If she wasn't there for you beforehand, how will she be there for you after the fact? 

Hypergamy can hurt society. You can't have a society without structure; you can't have structure if everyone is not willing to do their part. Because women want men of power, you're not encouraging teamwork. Do you think a Basketball team can succeed if everyone wants to be the shooting guard? Can a business succeed if everyone wants to be the CEO or CFO? White-collar men wouldn't make a lot of money if it wasn't for the labor of blue-collar men. I'm not saying white-collar men can't do the same jobs as blue-collar men, but they can't spread themselves so thin. 

No one enjoys doing anything without recognition or compensation; that's how you create disgruntled employees and players. There was an episode of Hey, Arnold that dealt with this. That episode was about Arnold being invited to a party, but the host ends up putting everyone out because of her high standards, so she ends up partying with the kids she considered losers. Do you see where I'm going with this? I'm not saying everyone should get the same praise or benefits; however, you can't promote the idea of there's no I in team and not give everyone acknowledgment.   

Before I wrap this up, I want to ask this question can women overcome Hypergamy? If women become aware of hypergamy and its downside, then it's possible. However, it's an uphill battle. Women need to handle hypergamy the way companies and neighborhoods do. They don't just hire the most qualified person; they also want someone who has a good temperament. Well, if you're better than most people on the job, having a good temperament might not be a big deal depending on what you do for a living. Plus, society doesn't make a big deal about having a good temperament as they do qualifications, but I digress. As far as neighborhoods go, money is not enough to live in a nice area; you have to be classy and maintain your property if you want to be a part of that community. 

My point is that a man's character should matter just as much as him being on top of the food chain. I have mixed feelings about hypergamy; on one hand, it helps boys and men know what to expect from women. On the other hand, I wish it was compartmentalized because knowing this doesn't help boost morale, as I explained in this post. Also, trying to live up to women's standards is problematic for three reasons. First of all, you're not sincere about bettering yourself, because of that, you're not going to make much progress. Second, we're kind of sending the wrong message to women, I mean, we can't say women's standards are unreasonable and still try to live up to them. Finally, it doesn't help women to pick men who are compatible with them when men strive to be the type of man they think they deserve.   

That's all I have to say about this subject, for now. Do you think the benefits of hypergamy outweigh the bad?