Me being Big Brother

Me being Big Brother

Intro: I don't like this program because it seems to give kids who don't have a father a substitute father, there is nothing you can do to replace an absent parent. Also, it gives single mothers an out, I mean how can we hold them responsible for not picking the right man to be their father if we keep bailing them out? Also, this program could cause more harm than good, I'll elaborate on that later. If it was up to me only kids whose fathers died or don't have a criminal record should be a part of this program. Since it's back-to-school time this is what I would tell the boys if I was a part of this program. 

Will you please stop asking me can men and women be friends; the answer is no! no! a million times No!!! Have you seen the show Friends or the movie when Harry met Sally? I'm not saying it's not possible however you can't rule out the possibility that lust I mean feeling will develop. When that does happen you need to address that. What hurt this possibility is both parties not being honest about what they want from each other. (To be fair women get upset when men are honest with them but.) Even if you two are not attracted to each other it doesn't mean anything, once she gets a boyfriend, she will kick you to the curve. What kind of friendship is that? 

That's another thing it's hard to be friends with the opposite sex if one is in a relationship and the other is not. You don't want to do anything to make your partner feel uncomfortable. Speaking of friendship school is not the best place to make friends for the same reason why you shouldn't make friends at your job because it's not good to mix business with pleasure. Plus, you don't want to deal with the heartbreak of him or her going to college far away. Also, you don't want everyone at school getting involved with the problems between you and your friends, do you? 

If you're looking for advice on how to sweep women off their feet, I can't help you with that even if I wanted to. Because dealing with women is like fashion, just because I look good in a turtleneck doesn't mean everyone else will. You have to put yourselves out there to figure out what kind of woman you can get. If you do seek relationship advice, I would exercise caution because there are things that they say that I don't agree with like you have no game. That bothers me because game is having what women want and most men don't have that as far as money, height, looks, body type and attitude. Even if you have what women are looking for it won't mean anything if she views you as a loser. Game is not about charming women if that was the case bars and nightclubs wouldn't exist. This is what bugs me about people giving other people advice they can't give you confirmation. 

With that said I do have some suggestions that can help with any relationship. Before I get into that I want to address two things. If you don't like working out or eating healthy then you have no business trying to get laid. Having sex is a workout why you do think people breathe hard or out of breath when there done? I'm not trying to scare you I'm just trying to spare you from being put in an awkward situation. Also, sex is like everything else as far as you're not going to be good at it the first time, you get better at it over time. So, if a woman tries to embarrass you by saying you're bad in bed don't let that bother you because it takes two.  

If you don't want to be a parent, then you really have no business trying to get laid. I don't care if you're using protection, you're putting yourself at risk of getting a girl pregnant. It's not fair to bring a child into the world and then ignore the child because you didn't plan on it. If you don't feel sorry for cops being put in a life-or-death situation, they why should anyone feel sorry for you? 

Do you know what you want to do with your life? If you don’t then you need to figure that out and focus on that. This plays a role in why relationships are not working these days, people don’t achieve their goals before they settle down. Because of that, they're miserable, they feel like they’ve missed out on life. It’s difficult to have a relationship and a career because both things can take up a lot of your time, just like playing sports can take time away from you doing your schoolwork or chorus. So, you have to ask yourself what’s more important to you your dreams or your girlfriend? 

One of the many problems in relationships is people don't take the time to get to know each other and that's what gets them into trouble. Now if you see a woman that you're drawn to don't be so quick to make your move, take the time to get to know her before you make your move. When you do make a move don't try so hard to impress her. By getting to know her I don't mean ask her a bunch of questions where you don't care about the answer like what do like to do for fun, what are your goals in life, what's your childhood like etc, etc. You can learn about someone by observing that person just like you observe the main character in a Book, Movie, or TV show. You learn about the main character by how he or she carry themselves, treats others and handles situations. If you apply this to your love life you won't be surprised by anything they do. 

Also, you need to figure out what you will or will not tolerate in a relationship. For example, if you don't want to be with a woman who likes to go to clubs you need to let her know upfront. Don't do it after the fact because that will cause aggravation. Before you two become a couple you need to let each other know what to expect from each other and stick to it. 

Finally, both parties have to be on one accord as far as they should want the same things out of the relationship. If you can do those three things relationship would last longer. The only issue you have to deal with is outside influence, everything else should work itself out.       

         

Here's a quick piece of advice on bullies you need to develop thick skin. Part of the reason why they're picking on you is that they're miserable. Would a happy person give you grief for no reason? I'm not saying that's OK however if you think highly of yourself nothing they say should bother you. People will despise you no matter who you are or what you do. You can win the humanitarian award ten times over and people will still dislike you. Plus, they don't need our permission or a good reason to dislike you. (The not having a good reason part still bugs me.) You need to have thick skin if you want to work at a demanding job or join the ARMY. I wouldn't recommend that you trash talk back at them unless you can make him or her cry go for it. Now if the bully put his hands on you or takes your things it's on. 

If you witness a crime whether or not you're a co-conspirator there is a way you can snitch without worrying about getting stitches or lead. First of all, get a lawyer, second, you tell the lawyer what you saw behind closed doors finally if you're worried about your safety then you have to negotiate witness protection before you say anything to the DA. I could be wrong your lawyer can get in trouble for knowing about a crime and not saying anything. I suggest you talk to someone who studies laws just to be on the safe side. If you become a disgruntled employee, I wouldn't recommend that you become a whistleblower because doing that doesn't show that you're trustworthy. I mean what's stopping you from blowing the whistle on anyone? 

Don't expect hard work to get you far in life because people don't care about that they care about results. For example, would you buy a Ferrari if you knew the workers only get paid five dollars a day and didn't go home until the car is done? What if the Ferrari doesn't work would you still buy it to reward them for the worker's hard work on the car? If you don't care about the labor people put into their work, you shouldn't expect everyone else to do the same for you. I'm not saying you should be lazy however you have to work smart not hard. To be fair society loves to send mixed messages about how to get results like if they find out that you cheated or break the law to achieve the goal it's a problem. So much for not looking at a gift horse in the mouth.     

  

As far as money goes save it. By saving I mean don't buy things that you can't afford, for example, if you want an Xbox 360 and it took you four months to save enough money for it you shouldn't buy it. You have to put money aside for your 401 K, a rainy day, food, clothes and vacations. Also, you shouldn't ask to borrow money that you don't have, for example, if you don't have 9 grand you shouldn't ask to borrow 9 grand. If you want to compete with other businesses, you have to rival them by offering something that other stores don't have. For example, when you shop a BJ's they sell things in bulk, you have to be a member to shop there and they give out coupon books. No other store has done that as far as I know. Before you buy a house learn everything that you can about real estate and do the same thing with the stock market. 

To the boys who want to be in good shape, there's more to it than working out and eating healthy. You have to get your diet under control. If you eat nothing but junk food and start eating healthy your body needs time to adjust to the change, talk to a nutritionist about this they can explain it better than I can. Another thing don't try so hard to work out take it slow, you don't want to pull a muscle. 

When you vote you want to start small, I mean start with your local government to see if there are any changes and then vote for President. 

Now everything I just said will mean nothing because I could be wrong. Our advice is based on how we view the world and what we experience. Due to that, we run the risk of projecting ourselves onto the youth. That's not good because A were not all equals, life works out differently for all of us because of that. B we can't give them confirmation about what we tell them without being by their side every step of the way. This is what I mean when I said that this program can do more harm than good because these boys are lost and looking for guides. I'm not saying we shouldn't give them directions, but they should see how the world is for themselves. 

Side note parents telling their kids they know what's best for them is one of the most arrogant things you can say to them. Unless you have a crystal ball you don't know that. If that's true then you shouldn't need help if your kids have mental problems, substance abuse issues and cutting themselves. If you consider that a low blow then you shouldn't brag about you know what's best for your kids. You can't take pride in their accomplishments and not do the same for their shortcoming in life. This is one of the many reasons why teens give authority figures a hard time because they believe what you teach and tell them doesn't match with how they see the world. It's like using an old map, let's say you move to Delaware, Dover and you use a 1970's map of Dover to navigate around the city. Do you really think that map can help you? 

That's all I have to say about the subject what do you think of this program?